What I’m Digging

I attended another farming conference this past weekend. The morning was a lecture and the afternoon was a workshop. It was fabulous.

Here’s my favorite photo from the workshop. This embodies the spirit of the farming community to me. Everyone working together. Many hands make light the work.

biodynamics

This farming conference was filled with “groovy” people just like the last one I attended. I love that vibe. I had no idea that farmers were such a “hip” group of people. (note to self: become hipper) But they are. They dress hip; they talk hip.

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  1. Kim Reeves says:

    Well, Rebekah!!! IDIG this post!!!! I love this time of year too! Pollen and all! I would dearly love to go to one of those seminars! Sounds like so much fun getting to meet so many like minded people! Happy Spring!

  2. Marian L says:

    Ooo, free Helleborus (genus of the species Lenten Rose)! They are so beautiful but be careful, many species are poisonous. As always I loved your post and can’t wait to hear about the menagerie you will acquire at the pond, it will be wonderful!

  3. Bonnie Ellis says:

    I do not know where you get the idea that ponds attract snakes, but they don’t. We have 9 28″ koi and I’ve never seen one here. We didn’t have them on the farm in Iowa either. Enjoy your pond and don’t let the fear of snakes spoil it. Remember, farmgirls can deal with that stuff.

  4. rene foust says:

    How awesome you have been very busy and the rewards are paying off. The pond is going to be so beautiful when it gets all filled in. I have a pond on my property as well. It was all dried up but we did a bit of work to it and it is filling back up too. Like you I worry about snakes (they are my nightmare) but the pond is going to be so beautiful. I need to find some farming classes in my area too thanks again for allowing us to live vicariously through you and your farm girl life come true.

  5. Dolly says:

    I’m so happy for you and absolutely love your new pond! That last photo took my breathe away!

  6. Sheree says:

    I too have recently left a city and moved to a 5 acre farm. So much to learn! but I’m digging it! I’ve been introducted to a farming ethic entitled “Permaculture”. It embrasses good land stewartship and in my opinion a very healthy dose of common sense. I’m so glad that the conclusion of your drainage problems was to work with it and not against it. Such serrendipity has left you with a beautiful oasis for you and wildlife in the very near future. Enjoy!

  7. Debbie says:

    I envy you, spring hasn’t arrived in my neck of the woods yet. (Central New York) So it was nice to live vicariously through your blog for a bit….thank you, as I sit here warming my hands on a cup of tea!

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What I'm Digging

I attended another farming conference this past weekend. The morning was a lecture and the afternoon was a workshop. It was fabulous.

Here’s my favorite photo from the workshop. This embodies the spirit of the farming community to me. Everyone working together. Many hands make light the work.

biodynamics

This farming conference was filled with “groovy” people just like the last one I attended. I love that vibe. I had no idea that farmers were such a “hip” group of people. (note to self: become hipper) But they are. They dress hip; they talk hip.

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  1. Kim Reeves says:

    Well, Rebekah!!! IDIG this post!!!! I love this time of year too! Pollen and all! I would dearly love to go to one of those seminars! Sounds like so much fun getting to meet so many like minded people! Happy Spring!

  2. Marian L says:

    Ooo, free Helleborus (genus of the species Lenten Rose)! They are so beautiful but be careful, many species are poisonous. As always I loved your post and can’t wait to hear about the menagerie you will acquire at the pond, it will be wonderful!

  3. Bonnie Ellis says:

    I do not know where you get the idea that ponds attract snakes, but they don’t. We have 9 28″ koi and I’ve never seen one here. We didn’t have them on the farm in Iowa either. Enjoy your pond and don’t let the fear of snakes spoil it. Remember, farmgirls can deal with that stuff.

  4. rene foust says:

    How awesome you have been very busy and the rewards are paying off. The pond is going to be so beautiful when it gets all filled in. I have a pond on my property as well. It was all dried up but we did a bit of work to it and it is filling back up too. Like you I worry about snakes (they are my nightmare) but the pond is going to be so beautiful. I need to find some farming classes in my area too thanks again for allowing us to live vicariously through you and your farm girl life come true.

  5. Dolly says:

    I’m so happy for you and absolutely love your new pond! That last photo took my breathe away!

  6. Sheree says:

    I too have recently left a city and moved to a 5 acre farm. So much to learn! but I’m digging it! I’ve been introducted to a farming ethic entitled “Permaculture”. It embrasses good land stewartship and in my opinion a very healthy dose of common sense. I’m so glad that the conclusion of your drainage problems was to work with it and not against it. Such serrendipity has left you with a beautiful oasis for you and wildlife in the very near future. Enjoy!

  7. Debbie says:

    I envy you, spring hasn’t arrived in my neck of the woods yet. (Central New York) So it was nice to live vicariously through your blog for a bit….thank you, as I sit here warming my hands on a cup of tea!

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Dreaming of a New Kitchen

You know that photo of yourself?

The one that is goofy and hilarious and you hope nobody ever sees?

And then you see your daughter showing it to her friends because it is so very rip-roaring funny?

Or maybe somebody else posted it and tagged you on facebook and you think–oh no! all those people I haven’t seen in 20 years are seeing this–and quick! you untag yourself.

You know the one?

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  1. Sippie says:

    O wow! Your dream kitchen is AWESOME, right down to the people in it. I would love love love to have one just like it. (And your previous kitchens weren’t bad either!)
    Thanks for this.

  2. Joan says:

    Oh how fun to see your wonderful soul-horse up close and personal, yes his look is like ‘really did you have too?’ Ahhhh love both of your last kitchens, there are parts of both I’d have — off white cabinets, some with wavy glass – maybe not all the way but at the top, a pantry big enough to walk into, with everything having a place, a large island in red or green, nothing on it except some pretties that are useful, I have a small island now with the rolling pins, small utensils in a quaint jar, makes it so handy to not be opening drawers, I have used and AGA, loved it but it does put off heat all the time and summer makes for steam, just my opinion, so gas it would be – counter top with storage of pans below, no hanging, I’m too short to reach them when they are high enough that others don’t hit their heads – at least a double oven, one a convection and also a small micro wave – the baking center would have a low/marble top, the mixer would be on a pop up shelf coming out from under the cupboard next to the marble top, along with all the baking needs stored under the low marble top, oh WINDOWS there must be a bank, if not a bay at the kitchen sink, which is large/long with a drain board at each end – had this on the farm growing up – loved it, the eating area a fun banquet is nice but I’d probably go with a round farm table and chairs that can expand, with a Tiffany style light above – oh the POP of color would be yellow, actually that is the pop that I am going to paint in my kitchen this summer – have the red n green and am looking at painting the cupboards and warm white too. Oh my Rebekah you have done it this time, my mind is a whirl and I love it!! The winter, of which we are to get more snow tonight, has been a long one and now I am ready to MOVE. Good luck with your project. Thanks for the fun.

  3. Barb Delaney says:

    You are living my dream. Love your horse he is gorgeous.

  4. rene foust says:

    Wow Rebekah your dream kitchen is described so perfectly; I can see the horses playing out the windows, smell the cookies baking in the oven, feel the warmth of the fire, and mostly feel the love of friends and family as they gather there. I am sure this will all come true some time soon. I hope your dreams come true.

  5. Jo Stemwedel says:

    love your kitchens. I have the only kitchen I will have for my life. I live on a small farm.
    small old farm kitchen but I like it, no pantry, not enough cupboards, 2 dogs too many.
    It suits me and my husband and I don’t want to leave the farm until they carry me out.
    I cook 3 meals a day from scratch but my husband does not like different. Olh what a
    guy. Have fun and enjoy your new ideas jo

  6. Denise Ross says:

    Gosh, love your horse, did see the lippy mark 🙂
    Love love love your pic kitchen.
    I’m renting, but I like a white kitchen, timber bench tops, a walk in pantry and loads of bench space. I love to cook, bake and have an open kitchen with an open plan dining living area so I’m not cut off from others when I’m cooking. I love cooking with gas, since it’s quicker to heat elements and cheaper too here. I like a splash of colour like a blue or red and stained bench tops. I’d love two ovens with nice wide shelves and I’d like my bench tops to be quite wide with plenty of power points. Most kitchens I’ve been in never seemed to have enough. I have a big heavy mixer too, so it lives on my kitchen bench too. I like to have room so my family and friends can gather in my kitchen to chat, cook with me, love and laugh. No matter what type of kitchen I’ve had over the years it’s always been the center of my home.

  7. Stella - farmgirl at heart says:

    Hi Rebekah,
    Thank you so much for sharing your FABULOUS Mediterranean Breakfast recipe.
    I enjoy puttering around the kitchen and hope the completion of your dream kitchen isn’t too far around the corner.
    Have recently been trying out new recipes for granola, energy bars, breakfast bars, crock-pot oatmeal and the like. This recipe was intriguing and had to make a batch last weekend. It was a-mazing! A definite keeper. Appreciate you sharing with us! Heading off to the kitchen now to make another batch. 🙂

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Will I Ever Be A “Real” Farmer?

How exactly does a person LEARN to farm? I guess what I really mean is how do you LEARN to make a comfortable living at it?

Owning a farm and knowing how to make a living on a farm are two entirely different things. Most people I have met since we moved to the countryside have an off-farm day job and farming is their second job. Actually, I think everybody I’ve met fits that bill, part-time farmers, full-time something else.

Now that I have a farm of my own, I’m trying to learn how to farm AND trying to figure out how to make a living on these beautiful acres. I should add: I happen to be completely untrained and uneducated in farming. So far I’ve “trained” by talking to people who have farmed and by reading books about it.

This weekend, though, I did something else. I went to a farming conference.

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  1. brenda says:

    so why didn’t you invite me? Sounds like a fantastic time! Are they doing it again next year?

  2. Carol in NC says:

    Anne Lamott has dreads?? Wow. Who knew.

  3. denise says:

    love your “can do” attitude!

  4. Liz says:

    Thank you for this, I feel that old dream of mine start to flicker! I have always wanted to run the business of a farm. I want to grow more food than my family can eat, so I can share it with my neighbors, and I want to do more than just be self sufficient in respects to food. (I grew up on a farm in Utah, where we truly ate only what we grew) That was my education, but I left too early! Please keep us up to date with yourself, you are such a good writer, I look forward to your posts!

  5. Adrienne says:

    Of course you can do this! Agriculture is in our blood from the hunter/gatherer days. We’ve just improved farming through the centuries. How wonderful to have the college nearby and share all the information they provide. Best wishes to you for continued success.

  6. Barbara Dellinger says:

    Rebekah, A farm conference will do that….put a strong foundation on a farm dream, which will take you to making it a reality. I recently attended the NAFDMA conference, a national farm conference with an agri-tourism angle. The farmers I met were amazing, down to earth and inspiring. It was a huge conference and I would like to find one that was more along the lines of the one you attended. As one “farmgirl” ( I work on a small family organic you-pick berry and veggie farm)to another “let the farming begin!”

  7. Rosemary says:

    Hi Rebekah,
    I so enjoy reading your column in Mary Jane’s magazine and your blog. You are very inspiring and so funny! 🙂
    After reading about your farm and how you sell Christmas trees…did you ever think of making that your income? Around here where we live , there are Christmas tree farms. People come from all over to cut down their own tree, get a hayride, buy a wreath, hot chocolate, etc. In the fall, they have a big corn maze with bonfires and other activities. I think they make a very good income. You can check them out at http://www.richardsonadventurefarm.com
    God bless you and good luck!
    PS: so sorry to hear about the loss of your chicken. We had 8 that we got as chicks almost 4 years ago. We have 4 left and a few are still laying!

  8. Eva says:

    This sounds like such a wonderful idea! I know you will have tons of fun!

  9. Corri says:

    Rebekah, I always enjoy your stories! Thanks so much for sharing!

  10. Dianne Beach says:

    Rebekah: Getting a e-mail from you is one of my greatest joys. I was thinking about a Farm near us that is organic and sells to restaurants, holds classes and tries to enlist the school children about growing one’s own food and eating it. You could sell at a farm market or advertise for other food enthusiasts (cheese makers, goat soap makers, etc) to sell a your farm market. This farm market also sells memberships an annual fee to purchase their own vegetables from the market. Whatever you decide for your farm will be right for you and your family. I am sure of that. Thank you for always looking at the sunny side. Hugs

  11. Amanda says:

    That college looks amazing!! What an awesome thing to do, you find such neat opportunities and just grab hold of them. While you’re learning from others, I’m learning from you. Keep up the inspiration!

  12. Joan says:

    As always entertaining and very in-lightning. WOW what a great college to attend, no not going back to ‘school’ but learning from ones like yourself is a good thing.
    God Bless and thanks for the joy.

  13. I’ve always been fascinated with the ancient idea that the family is an economic unit. Back when each household was a farm, they produced nearly everything they used and traded for the very few things they couldn’t make themselves. The family unit was a *producer,* not a *consumer.*

    I’m not saying it very well, but I really question the idea that we have to make lots of money at something in order to be successful at it. It goes with what you were saying about women – we want to nurture, we want to help things thrive. Doing this with a farm will provide food, shelter, warmth, exercise… and joining with other farmers provides entertainment, friendship, and somebody else’s cooking once in a while. That’s a full life!

    But see, it sounds like I don’t think you should make money with your farm, and that’s not what I’m mean to say. I’m just thinking about all those folks who work a full-time job in addition to farming. That’s sad, and I wonder if it’s because we all buy into the idea that we need to have “stuff.” Or perhaps the farms are too specialized. Everyone grows acres of corn, but no real food for themselves. Or they think they have to sell everything they grow and they never get the use of of it, like the Irish rancher I talked to in the Burren. He had a sheep ranch and he and his family NEVER ate lamb or mutton. It was too important to get the cash and make a profit.

    That’s messed up, IMO.

    More than any other occupation, farming should provide for so many of the farmer’s needs that she doesn’t need to make a lot of money. We just don’t farm that way anymore. But I know you want to nurture. I suspect whatever your plan is, it’s going to be beautiful. I can’t wait to read about it!

  14. Nancy Smith says:

    I have felt like I was the only one going through this! I’m taking the NCAT Getting Started in Farming online class and have been panicking over the Risk Management section! Your confidence inspires me to wade through my fears!

  15. Amy says:

    I so enjoy your stories about your farm. We have yet to move out to the farm because the house needs so much work. But I love the idea of working the farm and like you, I have no idea how to do that.

    I will be looking for a similar school to hopefully educate myself about how to do just that.

    Thanks for the inspiration.

  16. Ashley says:

    “…over-rated…over-boring…over-priced…too arm-wave-y” Hahaha!

    That college and conference sound amazing! You’ll get the hang of farming! You’re living a dream!

  17. Not everybody can afford to go to a farming college. So I decided to start an online program to teach women how to make a living farming check it out http://www.womenfarmers.org I have owned and ran a Lavender farm for over 10 years and it provides income and a lifestyle I love.www.gardengatelavender.com

  18. jill says:

    I an a farmer’s daughter and have spent the last 25 years growing organic vegetables for Farmer’s Markets and a successful CSA. I found success in starting each day of morning chores with my head against the warm side of my favorite milk goat, listening to the clucking of the hens as I fed them greens picked fresh from the greenhouse, and the soft bleat of the sheep as I throw hay down from the barn. Growing vegetables to feed families has been my greatest joy. No amount of income can compensate for the dirt under my nails and my sunburned nose. Success is being truly happy in your efforts. Here’s hoping you find the path that leads you to your dreams.

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Will I Ever Be A "Real" Farmer?

How exactly does a person LEARN to farm? I guess what I really mean is how do you LEARN to make a comfortable living at it?

Owning a farm and knowing how to make a living on a farm are two entirely different things. Most people I have met since we moved to the countryside have an off-farm day job and farming is their second job. Actually, I think everybody I’ve met fits that bill, part-time farmers, full-time something else.

Now that I have a farm of my own, I’m trying to learn how to farm AND trying to figure out how to make a living on these beautiful acres. I should add: I happen to be completely untrained and uneducated in farming. So far I’ve “trained” by talking to people who have farmed and by reading books about it.

This weekend, though, I did something else. I went to a farming conference.

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  1. brenda says:

    so why didn’t you invite me? Sounds like a fantastic time! Are they doing it again next year?

  2. Carol in NC says:

    Anne Lamott has dreads?? Wow. Who knew.

  3. denise says:

    love your “can do” attitude!

  4. Liz says:

    Thank you for this, I feel that old dream of mine start to flicker! I have always wanted to run the business of a farm. I want to grow more food than my family can eat, so I can share it with my neighbors, and I want to do more than just be self sufficient in respects to food. (I grew up on a farm in Utah, where we truly ate only what we grew) That was my education, but I left too early! Please keep us up to date with yourself, you are such a good writer, I look forward to your posts!

  5. Adrienne says:

    Of course you can do this! Agriculture is in our blood from the hunter/gatherer days. We’ve just improved farming through the centuries. How wonderful to have the college nearby and share all the information they provide. Best wishes to you for continued success.

  6. Barbara Dellinger says:

    Rebekah, A farm conference will do that….put a strong foundation on a farm dream, which will take you to making it a reality. I recently attended the NAFDMA conference, a national farm conference with an agri-tourism angle. The farmers I met were amazing, down to earth and inspiring. It was a huge conference and I would like to find one that was more along the lines of the one you attended. As one “farmgirl” ( I work on a small family organic you-pick berry and veggie farm)to another “let the farming begin!”

  7. Rosemary says:

    Hi Rebekah,
    I so enjoy reading your column in Mary Jane’s magazine and your blog. You are very inspiring and so funny! 🙂
    After reading about your farm and how you sell Christmas trees…did you ever think of making that your income? Around here where we live , there are Christmas tree farms. People come from all over to cut down their own tree, get a hayride, buy a wreath, hot chocolate, etc. In the fall, they have a big corn maze with bonfires and other activities. I think they make a very good income. You can check them out at http://www.richardsonadventurefarm.com
    God bless you and good luck!
    PS: so sorry to hear about the loss of your chicken. We had 8 that we got as chicks almost 4 years ago. We have 4 left and a few are still laying!

  8. Eva says:

    This sounds like such a wonderful idea! I know you will have tons of fun!

  9. Corri says:

    Rebekah, I always enjoy your stories! Thanks so much for sharing!

  10. Dianne Beach says:

    Rebekah: Getting a e-mail from you is one of my greatest joys. I was thinking about a Farm near us that is organic and sells to restaurants, holds classes and tries to enlist the school children about growing one’s own food and eating it. You could sell at a farm market or advertise for other food enthusiasts (cheese makers, goat soap makers, etc) to sell a your farm market. This farm market also sells memberships an annual fee to purchase their own vegetables from the market. Whatever you decide for your farm will be right for you and your family. I am sure of that. Thank you for always looking at the sunny side. Hugs

  11. Amanda says:

    That college looks amazing!! What an awesome thing to do, you find such neat opportunities and just grab hold of them. While you’re learning from others, I’m learning from you. Keep up the inspiration!

  12. Joan says:

    As always entertaining and very in-lightning. WOW what a great college to attend, no not going back to ‘school’ but learning from ones like yourself is a good thing.
    God Bless and thanks for the joy.

  13. I’ve always been fascinated with the ancient idea that the family is an economic unit. Back when each household was a farm, they produced nearly everything they used and traded for the very few things they couldn’t make themselves. The family unit was a *producer,* not a *consumer.*

    I’m not saying it very well, but I really question the idea that we have to make lots of money at something in order to be successful at it. It goes with what you were saying about women – we want to nurture, we want to help things thrive. Doing this with a farm will provide food, shelter, warmth, exercise… and joining with other farmers provides entertainment, friendship, and somebody else’s cooking once in a while. That’s a full life!

    But see, it sounds like I don’t think you should make money with your farm, and that’s not what I’m mean to say. I’m just thinking about all those folks who work a full-time job in addition to farming. That’s sad, and I wonder if it’s because we all buy into the idea that we need to have “stuff.” Or perhaps the farms are too specialized. Everyone grows acres of corn, but no real food for themselves. Or they think they have to sell everything they grow and they never get the use of of it, like the Irish rancher I talked to in the Burren. He had a sheep ranch and he and his family NEVER ate lamb or mutton. It was too important to get the cash and make a profit.

    That’s messed up, IMO.

    More than any other occupation, farming should provide for so many of the farmer’s needs that she doesn’t need to make a lot of money. We just don’t farm that way anymore. But I know you want to nurture. I suspect whatever your plan is, it’s going to be beautiful. I can’t wait to read about it!

  14. Nancy Smith says:

    I have felt like I was the only one going through this! I’m taking the NCAT Getting Started in Farming online class and have been panicking over the Risk Management section! Your confidence inspires me to wade through my fears!

  15. Amy says:

    I so enjoy your stories about your farm. We have yet to move out to the farm because the house needs so much work. But I love the idea of working the farm and like you, I have no idea how to do that.

    I will be looking for a similar school to hopefully educate myself about how to do just that.

    Thanks for the inspiration.

  16. Ashley says:

    “…over-rated…over-boring…over-priced…too arm-wave-y” Hahaha!

    That college and conference sound amazing! You’ll get the hang of farming! You’re living a dream!

  17. Not everybody can afford to go to a farming college. So I decided to start an online program to teach women how to make a living farming check it out http://www.womenfarmers.org I have owned and ran a Lavender farm for over 10 years and it provides income and a lifestyle I love.www.gardengatelavender.com

  18. jill says:

    I an a farmer’s daughter and have spent the last 25 years growing organic vegetables for Farmer’s Markets and a successful CSA. I found success in starting each day of morning chores with my head against the warm side of my favorite milk goat, listening to the clucking of the hens as I fed them greens picked fresh from the greenhouse, and the soft bleat of the sheep as I throw hay down from the barn. Growing vegetables to feed families has been my greatest joy. No amount of income can compensate for the dirt under my nails and my sunburned nose. Success is being truly happy in your efforts. Here’s hoping you find the path that leads you to your dreams.

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I Don’t Like the Turn, Turn, Turn

You know a post that has “Turn, Turn, Turn” in the title is surely about there being a season to everything, a time to live, a time to die. You’re right on that.

It is a stark, unfortunate truth, there is a season for everything.

Yes, death is a part of the circle of life. And sure, I can sing that song too. (“from the day we arrive on the planet…”)

But knowing the words to the songs doesn’t mean that I can deal with it. And being able to quote Alfred Lord Tennyson’s “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” doesn’t make it so.

I am faced with the “turn, turn, turn/circle of life/loved and lost” concept much more frequently since I moved to a farm. And, quite frankly, I don’t like it. I’m not so happy about that part of farming. (I keep saying that I should just stick with turnip farming.)

You have heard me talk about one of the sweetest, most friendly chickens ever hatched, our Sicilian Buttercup we called TyGee. She was the tiniest in the flock. She was also the most loving in the flock. She’d rather be held by me or my daughter than to eat.

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She was sick last week. I did my best to nurse her back to health, but I failed. Epic failure.

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  1. Linda L Graziano says:

    I write to you with tears running down my cheeks over the loss of our beloved Dachshund Scooter.. I had been thinking ofhaving chickens, I remember very little about my grandmother, but she raised chickens.After reading your post, I am convinced that is not for me. I have found the website Rainbow Bridge and the book It’s OK to cry by Maria Luz Quintana very helpful. Best to you, animals give so much and ask so little.

  2. Megan Escareno says:

    I’m so sorry. It is so very hard to lose a beloved pet. Insulate your heart, but don’t shut down for good. You will learn to “move on” –not in a cold, callous way, but in a way that when the next animal comes along, you will remember the good times you had with the one that has past, and it will help you to love the new one even better. I know what you’re thinking. What happens when you love even more and then that one goes?! You heal. You learn to love more. Better.
    When I was a little girl, my parents wanted us to get a taste of hobby-farming, so they ordered us 30 chicks and two bunnies. My bunny was beautiful. Really. She was a smokey, sable gray. Smokey became her moniker. I played in the yard with her every day. I walked her on a leash like a puppy. We sat on the grass inside a little chicken-wire fence to snuggle. We decided to breed her. We were going to learn how to sell the babies and run a small business. I was excited about the babies; not about selling them. However, that was the least of my worries. Easter morning came in with a rolling thunderstorm. Smokey went into labor. I woke up to two blubbering parents standing over me–not the best way to wake up your child, by the way. They had come to tell me that Smokey had gone into labor from the stress of the storm. She gave birth to 9 babies, but died with two very large, breech babies inside. I cried and cried and cried, but while I cried we ran outside to recover the babies because now we had to find a nursing doe for them. We drove through the country. I cried at the doorstep of all the local farmers–not a one had a nursing doe. We nursed the 9 babies every two hours, every day for two weeks until slowly, each one passed. And each time, I cried. I was devastated. It took me a very long time to get over her, but in the mean time, I was given another bunny, and we successfully raised up to 18 rabbits at one time. I never loved another bunny liked I loved Smokey, but I didn’t take the other bunnies for granted either. In reality, it was the loss of life that I encountered that year that helped me to learn to deal with death as a young woman. It may not seem like it’s a good thing, but there is beauty to be found in the ashes.

  3. LeVern Burback says:

    I am so sorry to read about your loss. As I read your despair…I thought how lucky you were to have such a special pet…it sounded like right from the start she was a star…loved by you from the very moment she came into your life and loving you…in the most special “pet” way, unconditionally. Pets come into our lives and stay such a short time…I grieve with you as I, too, have felt this kind of special connection.

  4. I wish I had great words of wisdom for you. I don’t have a lot of experience with animals. I can only wish you healing and peace. I think you will… adapt… to losing your animal friends. You will remember that the days/months/years/ of joy they bring you are worth the pain, and you’ll find the courage to bring more animals home. But it will probably always feel like a sock in the gut at first, when one of them dies.

  5. Bonnie says:

    I am so very very sorry.
    Having animals is so joyful…..and so sorrowful.
    The joy is amazing…the sorrow never gets easier.
    You need to grieve. Your daughter needs to grieve.
    But please don’t shut down for too long…..you will miss out on the joy that is waiting for you!
    Sending hugs to you both, from Oregon.

  6. maureen says:

    Find strength in the life you gave her. It was pretty much “Club Med” for chickens, and that’s a wonderful thing. Probably wouldn’t have been as great if that little chick had ended up somewhere else. How wonderful that she touched your heart and passed in such a peaceful way. Remember and accentuate the positive, it softens the blow.

  7. Sherry H says:

    I know exactly how you feel. My first loss of one of my fav chickens I bawled like a baby. But what Bonnie said is SO true. I had to put one of my goats down this year…she had cancer. She trusted me and I had to end her life. It broke my heart…but I will continue to have animals…because the joy they bring is worth the pain that can happen. Kind of like having kids. Don’t give up on having the animals…people like you and your daughter are EXACTLY the kind of people who SHOULD have animals. Having them makes us better people and gives them a good life while they are here. Celebrate the life they have while they are with you. Hugs to you!

  8. Sharon Larson says:

    Dear Rebekah,
    I send a hug. From someone who has lived on a farm her entire life….loved and lost. Try to think of the GIFT of knowing your little ones at all…..the blessing of having them in your life, even for a short time. How much love and happiness that they gave….and what a blessing they were. Place a photo in your home and talk about the “good things” with your daughter each day. Scrapbooks help also. Better days are coming…..with more wonderful pets! <3

  9. Wendy Thomas says:

    Ah, the pain of loss. Been there. I’ve been writing about chickens for a few years now, some of them like your TyGee have gone beyond being “just chickens.” There was Alkia, a tiny little fighter whom we literally pulled out of her shell – she lived 2 months before she died. I cried. I moved on because I had to.

    Then there was lovely little Violet. I had raised her from a chick, she was the sweetest little thing who thought she was a puppy and would sit in our laps and on our shoulders. She died because her first night (her first damn night) in the coop, she panicked and got stuck inside of a concrete block, the rest of the flock pecked her to death. I hated the flock, I mourned Violet (I still do) but I moved on. Because I had to.

    That’s what you have to do when you take on the responsibility of caring for animals.

    And then I had Storm, baby Storm who was also pecked nearly to death in our flock. (not again, right?) I nursed her back to health, she lived in our house for about 3 months and she got well enough to transition back out to the flock.

    Storm continues to do fine.

    It happens, sometimes we lose those who have wiggled their way into our hearts, but sometimes we manage to save them as well.

    The lesson learned is to not stop trying.

    Ever.

    Because that’s what you have to do when you take on the responsibility of caring for animals.

    Healing wishes being sent to your family.

  10. jinx says:

    Glad you shared your post and am sorry and understand about your sadness and shut down for not wanting other animals right now. I did the same thing when my beloved dog died. I didn’t want that pain again. And then I rescued an old, emaciated dog off the highway and 4 months later I am so in love with him and he is so happy to have us. The joy we bring each other is worth the sadness that will one day come. You only have today to do good things for other animals and people. As a fellow animal lover I ask you to reconsider fostering an older horse or saving a donkey and giving it a good home. They need you and will bring you more joy and love. They need companionship and love and safety. Just like your chicken whom you gave a good and happy life to that passed through no fault of your own.

  11. Rene Foust says:

    I am wiping the tears away as I write this post so sad for you. This is exactly why I don’t have any farm animals; I just cant get up the nerve to overcome the fear of the sadness that will surely come after their passing. I finally got another dog after the passing of my dear old Daisy dog friend this past summer, evidently I love deeper than I thought. I do think that the advice that got me to be able to adopt another dog was when someone told me that there are many dogs that need to be loved like Daisy. I guess this allowed me to stay sad over the loss of Daisy but to find the room in my heart to love a dog that was in need. I hope you find your peace real soon. I think about your adventures in farming often and pray that you find much success because in your success I just may find the nerve to take the second step. So very sorry for yours and your daughter’s sadness.

  12. Donna says:

    I am so sorry to hear of TyGee’s passing. I, too, lost my most dear and precious yellow Lab, Reilly, last October, and I still find myself looking for him to be sitting at the storm door looking out waiting for me when I pull into the driveway. All I can say is that it definitely takes time…although, for me, I’m not so sure I will ever be at peace knowing he is gone. Our pets become part of us, and when they have to leave us for the Rainbow Bridge, it’s as though we lose a part of ourselves. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope you can find some peace in knowing that you gave TyGee a wonderful life while she was here on Earth.
    Sincerely,
    Donna

  13. Mary Jane Walsh says:

    It is so sad!
    As you age over the years, little things will remind you of a pet or a person loved one!
    Glad you have such happy memories of TyGee.

  14. Kimberly N says:

    So, so sorry for you & your daughter’s grief!!!
    There is an aspect to this that I wanted to share that helped me through losing a sparrow I found on the ground outside my bedroom window at the very tender age of 13! I had never had a pet until I found Billy Bird, and I was determined to be the very best mommy to this pink, featherless, newly hatched baby! And I was, and Billy Bird was fully grown when she was killed – it about killed me…I grieved so hard for that bird! The only thing that could comfort me was the thought (my mother told me this) that Billy Bird’s life had been the best it could be because I had been the best in caring for her (13 year olds do not naturally get up round the clock to feed a baby chirping bird)…so while TyGee brought you all so much pleasure, you also gave TyGee a wonderful life as well.
    I have had quite a few pets since that 13th year but the intensity of loving a pet was the purest with Billy Bird, it did change me. We love our pets because they love us back and noone can tell me that Billy Bird, a common sparrow, didn’t know me and prefer to perch on me over anything else! I had my mom to help me grieve…heck, she cried with me! So help each other, it is a bond you will cherish in years to come. I don’t know if it is possible to compartmentalize love – I do know that love like this is not lessened with time, but the sharp acute pain of loss will. Hugs!!!

  15. Gracie Barnes says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss and I so understand the pain you are feeling.
    Last year we lost our three chickens to a predator and then in August our dog died and then in September our cat died. It was a very rough year for us. Our animals became our children after our children grew up and moved on with their lives. I am still grieving their loss. I was very angry but them spent time remembering all the fun times we had with them. The chickens were 5 years old and the dog and cat we got at the pound the same day and they were 15 years old. So we had lots of great memories of them. We have since gotten new chickens but it will be a while before we get another dog and cat.

  16. Candace says:

    I’m so sorry to read about TyGee! I would give you a hug if I lived closer! How fortunate TyGee was to be part of your farm family! Even though she lived a short life she couldn’t help but know that she was sooooo loved and cherished. Not all farm critters have such a grand life as that. If I had a goat, a miniature donkey, an aging horse or a guinea-fowl to find a home for you would be the person I would approach because you care so much.

  17. Marcie says:

    So sorry to hear about little TyGee. I feel your pain. Our little pets, whether they are feathered or hairy, give us unconditional love and we give them love, food and shelter. Rebekah, you and your family loved TyGee and gave her a beautiful life. You built the cute little chicken house for your chickens and you really take care of all your farm animals. The way you care for your farm animals shows them you love them. We do that too. They are more than farm animals, they are ‘family’. The pain and hurt will heal but you will never stop missing them. Give your daughter a hug and tell her this will make you both stronger and proves how deeply you care about what you are doing on your farm. Prayers and thoughts are with you.

  18. Robin Ayers says:

    My heart is breaking for your and your daughters loss. Our family has been in the same place. Many times. We have been there with chickens, with goats, with horses and cows as well as our dogs and cats. When I lost my first horse it was sudden like your loss. I was blindsided and like you, my heart shut down. I felt my heart collapsing. Suzy died in the fall and the following January a neighbor asked us to make a home for a 20 year old horse whose owner had been killed suddenly in a car accident. Just like you I said no. The neighbor must have mentioned it to my grandmother because she called my right away. She asked why I had declined to take the mare, we had the room and we had the time. I told her I just couldn’t take on another horse knowing sooner or later it would die as well. My grandmother gave me some advice that I will pass on to you. She told me the greatest way I could honor the great impact that Suzy had on my life was to open my heart and dare to love again. She said the greatest gift our animals give us is teaching us how to love and the best way we can honor them and the impact they have had on our lives is to take those loving lessons and shower them upon another animal. She said if I didn’t have animals any more it would be to show dishonor to Suzy and how she had taught me to love. I thought about that for a few days, mulling her words over and over. After a week I called the neighbor and told her I would take the mare. For weeks I had to literally force myself to interact with the horse but slowly over time I felt my heart begin to thaw. Finally, slowly, I fell in love with the new mare. 8 years later when she died I cried and was heartbroken again but my grandmother had been right. The greatest gift that Suzy had given me was the gift of opening my heart to an animal and daring to love completely. I felt that I honored her memory by “paying it forward” so to speak and passing that love on to another. Each time one of our animals die it breaks our hearts. We mourn and grieve and cry. But for me, continuing to love, continuing to provide a loving place for another creature has been the healing balm.You aren’t replacing your lost loved one by loving other animals, you are taking the love they nurtured in your heart and spreading it around, making a loving life for another. This is what has helped us. Maybe it will help your family too. Bless your heart. May you feel whole again soon.

  19. Beverly Coles says:

    Many years ago while running my horse boarding and riding facility we decided to keep some chickens. Despite everything we did to safeguard them one night a predator managed to get into the coop and slaughtered all of them but one little banty hen that we had rescued earlier and added to the flock. I honestly didn’t know what to do with her so she was moved into the barn with the horses and barn cats. I didn’t expect her to do very well but she thrived bedding down with the horses, eating cat food (yes even chicken) with the barn cats and riding on the manure wagon when we mucked out the stalls. She became a barn mascot and would ride on the horse owners’ shoulders if they offered her a perch. She died peacefully and from natural causes and everyone in the barn, people and animals alike, missed her.

  20. Pam deMarrais says:

    I am so sorry for your loss of Tygee. Been there, done that, and it makes the heart ache for so long. Here’s a farmgirl hug!
    On a lighter note, the recipes look great. I will be trying them out!

  21. Katie B. says:

    OK, that’s it… I’m never raising chickens…

  22. Lorraine says:

    I don’t know if this is any consolation, but I hope it is. I learned, when I had parrots, that birds will not show how ill they are until they are near the end. It’s a survival skill they developed because sick birds can make the whole flock vulnerable. Because of that, they are run out of the flock when they show signs of illness. I’m sorry you lost your sweetie, but know that you were definitely fighting the good fight in an uphill battle.

  23. Doris Hall says:

    Hey Rebekah,
    As always my husband (of 54 years) and I watch for your postings. We love them and feel like we know you :). I would love to send you a picture of my “special” 13 year old granddaughter. She has fallen in love with their chickens. She has to feed the girls everyday as soon as she gets home from school. She holds them, talks to them and even sing to them in her own special way. Her mom calls her the “chicken whisperer”. She has named several of them. My daughter is on facebook with some pictures and also a clip of her swinging the chicken last evening and singing to her. I know your daughter would love to see them. Our other 14 grandchildren love Caroline and enjoy her funny antics. Could you contact me so I can send you a picture?

    • Rebekah Teal says:

      Hi Doris! Thank you for your sweet words. I would LOVE to see the photos of your precious granddaughter! Please email me at Rebekah@maryjanesfarm.com. Tell your daughter to “friend” me on facebook. I should pop up in a search for “Rebekah Teal”? I want to see that clip. Take special care!

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I Don't Like the Turn, Turn, Turn

You know a post that has “Turn, Turn, Turn” in the title is surely about there being a season to everything, a time to live, a time to die. You’re right on that.

It is a stark, unfortunate truth, there is a season for everything.

Yes, death is a part of the circle of life. And sure, I can sing that song too. (“from the day we arrive on the planet…”)

But knowing the words to the songs doesn’t mean that I can deal with it. And being able to quote Alfred Lord Tennyson’s “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” doesn’t make it so.

I am faced with the “turn, turn, turn/circle of life/loved and lost” concept much more frequently since I moved to a farm. And, quite frankly, I don’t like it. I’m not so happy about that part of farming. (I keep saying that I should just stick with turnip farming.)

You have heard me talk about one of the sweetest, most friendly chickens ever hatched, our Sicilian Buttercup we called TyGee. She was the tiniest in the flock. She was also the most loving in the flock. She’d rather be held by me or my daughter than to eat.

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She was sick last week. I did my best to nurse her back to health, but I failed. Epic failure.

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  1. Linda L Graziano says:

    I write to you with tears running down my cheeks over the loss of our beloved Dachshund Scooter.. I had been thinking ofhaving chickens, I remember very little about my grandmother, but she raised chickens.After reading your post, I am convinced that is not for me. I have found the website Rainbow Bridge and the book It’s OK to cry by Maria Luz Quintana very helpful. Best to you, animals give so much and ask so little.

  2. Megan Escareno says:

    I’m so sorry. It is so very hard to lose a beloved pet. Insulate your heart, but don’t shut down for good. You will learn to “move on” –not in a cold, callous way, but in a way that when the next animal comes along, you will remember the good times you had with the one that has past, and it will help you to love the new one even better. I know what you’re thinking. What happens when you love even more and then that one goes?! You heal. You learn to love more. Better.
    When I was a little girl, my parents wanted us to get a taste of hobby-farming, so they ordered us 30 chicks and two bunnies. My bunny was beautiful. Really. She was a smokey, sable gray. Smokey became her moniker. I played in the yard with her every day. I walked her on a leash like a puppy. We sat on the grass inside a little chicken-wire fence to snuggle. We decided to breed her. We were going to learn how to sell the babies and run a small business. I was excited about the babies; not about selling them. However, that was the least of my worries. Easter morning came in with a rolling thunderstorm. Smokey went into labor. I woke up to two blubbering parents standing over me–not the best way to wake up your child, by the way. They had come to tell me that Smokey had gone into labor from the stress of the storm. She gave birth to 9 babies, but died with two very large, breech babies inside. I cried and cried and cried, but while I cried we ran outside to recover the babies because now we had to find a nursing doe for them. We drove through the country. I cried at the doorstep of all the local farmers–not a one had a nursing doe. We nursed the 9 babies every two hours, every day for two weeks until slowly, each one passed. And each time, I cried. I was devastated. It took me a very long time to get over her, but in the mean time, I was given another bunny, and we successfully raised up to 18 rabbits at one time. I never loved another bunny liked I loved Smokey, but I didn’t take the other bunnies for granted either. In reality, it was the loss of life that I encountered that year that helped me to learn to deal with death as a young woman. It may not seem like it’s a good thing, but there is beauty to be found in the ashes.

  3. LeVern Burback says:

    I am so sorry to read about your loss. As I read your despair…I thought how lucky you were to have such a special pet…it sounded like right from the start she was a star…loved by you from the very moment she came into your life and loving you…in the most special “pet” way, unconditionally. Pets come into our lives and stay such a short time…I grieve with you as I, too, have felt this kind of special connection.

  4. I wish I had great words of wisdom for you. I don’t have a lot of experience with animals. I can only wish you healing and peace. I think you will… adapt… to losing your animal friends. You will remember that the days/months/years/ of joy they bring you are worth the pain, and you’ll find the courage to bring more animals home. But it will probably always feel like a sock in the gut at first, when one of them dies.

  5. Bonnie says:

    I am so very very sorry.
    Having animals is so joyful…..and so sorrowful.
    The joy is amazing…the sorrow never gets easier.
    You need to grieve. Your daughter needs to grieve.
    But please don’t shut down for too long…..you will miss out on the joy that is waiting for you!
    Sending hugs to you both, from Oregon.

  6. maureen says:

    Find strength in the life you gave her. It was pretty much “Club Med” for chickens, and that’s a wonderful thing. Probably wouldn’t have been as great if that little chick had ended up somewhere else. How wonderful that she touched your heart and passed in such a peaceful way. Remember and accentuate the positive, it softens the blow.

  7. Sherry H says:

    I know exactly how you feel. My first loss of one of my fav chickens I bawled like a baby. But what Bonnie said is SO true. I had to put one of my goats down this year…she had cancer. She trusted me and I had to end her life. It broke my heart…but I will continue to have animals…because the joy they bring is worth the pain that can happen. Kind of like having kids. Don’t give up on having the animals…people like you and your daughter are EXACTLY the kind of people who SHOULD have animals. Having them makes us better people and gives them a good life while they are here. Celebrate the life they have while they are with you. Hugs to you!

  8. Sharon Larson says:

    Dear Rebekah,
    I send a hug. From someone who has lived on a farm her entire life….loved and lost. Try to think of the GIFT of knowing your little ones at all…..the blessing of having them in your life, even for a short time. How much love and happiness that they gave….and what a blessing they were. Place a photo in your home and talk about the “good things” with your daughter each day. Scrapbooks help also. Better days are coming…..with more wonderful pets! <3

  9. Wendy Thomas says:

    Ah, the pain of loss. Been there. I’ve been writing about chickens for a few years now, some of them like your TyGee have gone beyond being “just chickens.” There was Alkia, a tiny little fighter whom we literally pulled out of her shell – she lived 2 months before she died. I cried. I moved on because I had to.

    Then there was lovely little Violet. I had raised her from a chick, she was the sweetest little thing who thought she was a puppy and would sit in our laps and on our shoulders. She died because her first night (her first damn night) in the coop, she panicked and got stuck inside of a concrete block, the rest of the flock pecked her to death. I hated the flock, I mourned Violet (I still do) but I moved on. Because I had to.

    That’s what you have to do when you take on the responsibility of caring for animals.

    And then I had Storm, baby Storm who was also pecked nearly to death in our flock. (not again, right?) I nursed her back to health, she lived in our house for about 3 months and she got well enough to transition back out to the flock.

    Storm continues to do fine.

    It happens, sometimes we lose those who have wiggled their way into our hearts, but sometimes we manage to save them as well.

    The lesson learned is to not stop trying.

    Ever.

    Because that’s what you have to do when you take on the responsibility of caring for animals.

    Healing wishes being sent to your family.

  10. jinx says:

    Glad you shared your post and am sorry and understand about your sadness and shut down for not wanting other animals right now. I did the same thing when my beloved dog died. I didn’t want that pain again. And then I rescued an old, emaciated dog off the highway and 4 months later I am so in love with him and he is so happy to have us. The joy we bring each other is worth the sadness that will one day come. You only have today to do good things for other animals and people. As a fellow animal lover I ask you to reconsider fostering an older horse or saving a donkey and giving it a good home. They need you and will bring you more joy and love. They need companionship and love and safety. Just like your chicken whom you gave a good and happy life to that passed through no fault of your own.

  11. Rene Foust says:

    I am wiping the tears away as I write this post so sad for you. This is exactly why I don’t have any farm animals; I just cant get up the nerve to overcome the fear of the sadness that will surely come after their passing. I finally got another dog after the passing of my dear old Daisy dog friend this past summer, evidently I love deeper than I thought. I do think that the advice that got me to be able to adopt another dog was when someone told me that there are many dogs that need to be loved like Daisy. I guess this allowed me to stay sad over the loss of Daisy but to find the room in my heart to love a dog that was in need. I hope you find your peace real soon. I think about your adventures in farming often and pray that you find much success because in your success I just may find the nerve to take the second step. So very sorry for yours and your daughter’s sadness.

  12. Donna says:

    I am so sorry to hear of TyGee’s passing. I, too, lost my most dear and precious yellow Lab, Reilly, last October, and I still find myself looking for him to be sitting at the storm door looking out waiting for me when I pull into the driveway. All I can say is that it definitely takes time…although, for me, I’m not so sure I will ever be at peace knowing he is gone. Our pets become part of us, and when they have to leave us for the Rainbow Bridge, it’s as though we lose a part of ourselves. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope you can find some peace in knowing that you gave TyGee a wonderful life while she was here on Earth.
    Sincerely,
    Donna

  13. Mary Jane Walsh says:

    It is so sad!
    As you age over the years, little things will remind you of a pet or a person loved one!
    Glad you have such happy memories of TyGee.

  14. Kimberly N says:

    So, so sorry for you & your daughter’s grief!!!
    There is an aspect to this that I wanted to share that helped me through losing a sparrow I found on the ground outside my bedroom window at the very tender age of 13! I had never had a pet until I found Billy Bird, and I was determined to be the very best mommy to this pink, featherless, newly hatched baby! And I was, and Billy Bird was fully grown when she was killed – it about killed me…I grieved so hard for that bird! The only thing that could comfort me was the thought (my mother told me this) that Billy Bird’s life had been the best it could be because I had been the best in caring for her (13 year olds do not naturally get up round the clock to feed a baby chirping bird)…so while TyGee brought you all so much pleasure, you also gave TyGee a wonderful life as well.
    I have had quite a few pets since that 13th year but the intensity of loving a pet was the purest with Billy Bird, it did change me. We love our pets because they love us back and noone can tell me that Billy Bird, a common sparrow, didn’t know me and prefer to perch on me over anything else! I had my mom to help me grieve…heck, she cried with me! So help each other, it is a bond you will cherish in years to come. I don’t know if it is possible to compartmentalize love – I do know that love like this is not lessened with time, but the sharp acute pain of loss will. Hugs!!!

  15. Gracie Barnes says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss and I so understand the pain you are feeling.
    Last year we lost our three chickens to a predator and then in August our dog died and then in September our cat died. It was a very rough year for us. Our animals became our children after our children grew up and moved on with their lives. I am still grieving their loss. I was very angry but them spent time remembering all the fun times we had with them. The chickens were 5 years old and the dog and cat we got at the pound the same day and they were 15 years old. So we had lots of great memories of them. We have since gotten new chickens but it will be a while before we get another dog and cat.

  16. Candace says:

    I’m so sorry to read about TyGee! I would give you a hug if I lived closer! How fortunate TyGee was to be part of your farm family! Even though she lived a short life she couldn’t help but know that she was sooooo loved and cherished. Not all farm critters have such a grand life as that. If I had a goat, a miniature donkey, an aging horse or a guinea-fowl to find a home for you would be the person I would approach because you care so much.

  17. Marcie says:

    So sorry to hear about little TyGee. I feel your pain. Our little pets, whether they are feathered or hairy, give us unconditional love and we give them love, food and shelter. Rebekah, you and your family loved TyGee and gave her a beautiful life. You built the cute little chicken house for your chickens and you really take care of all your farm animals. The way you care for your farm animals shows them you love them. We do that too. They are more than farm animals, they are ‘family’. The pain and hurt will heal but you will never stop missing them. Give your daughter a hug and tell her this will make you both stronger and proves how deeply you care about what you are doing on your farm. Prayers and thoughts are with you.

  18. Robin Ayers says:

    My heart is breaking for your and your daughters loss. Our family has been in the same place. Many times. We have been there with chickens, with goats, with horses and cows as well as our dogs and cats. When I lost my first horse it was sudden like your loss. I was blindsided and like you, my heart shut down. I felt my heart collapsing. Suzy died in the fall and the following January a neighbor asked us to make a home for a 20 year old horse whose owner had been killed suddenly in a car accident. Just like you I said no. The neighbor must have mentioned it to my grandmother because she called my right away. She asked why I had declined to take the mare, we had the room and we had the time. I told her I just couldn’t take on another horse knowing sooner or later it would die as well. My grandmother gave me some advice that I will pass on to you. She told me the greatest way I could honor the great impact that Suzy had on my life was to open my heart and dare to love again. She said the greatest gift our animals give us is teaching us how to love and the best way we can honor them and the impact they have had on our lives is to take those loving lessons and shower them upon another animal. She said if I didn’t have animals any more it would be to show dishonor to Suzy and how she had taught me to love. I thought about that for a few days, mulling her words over and over. After a week I called the neighbor and told her I would take the mare. For weeks I had to literally force myself to interact with the horse but slowly over time I felt my heart begin to thaw. Finally, slowly, I fell in love with the new mare. 8 years later when she died I cried and was heartbroken again but my grandmother had been right. The greatest gift that Suzy had given me was the gift of opening my heart to an animal and daring to love completely. I felt that I honored her memory by “paying it forward” so to speak and passing that love on to another. Each time one of our animals die it breaks our hearts. We mourn and grieve and cry. But for me, continuing to love, continuing to provide a loving place for another creature has been the healing balm.You aren’t replacing your lost loved one by loving other animals, you are taking the love they nurtured in your heart and spreading it around, making a loving life for another. This is what has helped us. Maybe it will help your family too. Bless your heart. May you feel whole again soon.

  19. Beverly Coles says:

    Many years ago while running my horse boarding and riding facility we decided to keep some chickens. Despite everything we did to safeguard them one night a predator managed to get into the coop and slaughtered all of them but one little banty hen that we had rescued earlier and added to the flock. I honestly didn’t know what to do with her so she was moved into the barn with the horses and barn cats. I didn’t expect her to do very well but she thrived bedding down with the horses, eating cat food (yes even chicken) with the barn cats and riding on the manure wagon when we mucked out the stalls. She became a barn mascot and would ride on the horse owners’ shoulders if they offered her a perch. She died peacefully and from natural causes and everyone in the barn, people and animals alike, missed her.

  20. Pam deMarrais says:

    I am so sorry for your loss of Tygee. Been there, done that, and it makes the heart ache for so long. Here’s a farmgirl hug!
    On a lighter note, the recipes look great. I will be trying them out!

  21. Katie B. says:

    OK, that’s it… I’m never raising chickens…

  22. Lorraine says:

    I don’t know if this is any consolation, but I hope it is. I learned, when I had parrots, that birds will not show how ill they are until they are near the end. It’s a survival skill they developed because sick birds can make the whole flock vulnerable. Because of that, they are run out of the flock when they show signs of illness. I’m sorry you lost your sweetie, but know that you were definitely fighting the good fight in an uphill battle.

  23. Doris Hall says:

    Hey Rebekah,
    As always my husband (of 54 years) and I watch for your postings. We love them and feel like we know you :). I would love to send you a picture of my “special” 13 year old granddaughter. She has fallen in love with their chickens. She has to feed the girls everyday as soon as she gets home from school. She holds them, talks to them and even sing to them in her own special way. Her mom calls her the “chicken whisperer”. She has named several of them. My daughter is on facebook with some pictures and also a clip of her swinging the chicken last evening and singing to her. I know your daughter would love to see them. Our other 14 grandchildren love Caroline and enjoy her funny antics. Could you contact me so I can send you a picture?

    • Rebekah Teal says:

      Hi Doris! Thank you for your sweet words. I would LOVE to see the photos of your precious granddaughter! Please email me at Rebekah@maryjanesfarm.com. Tell your daughter to “friend” me on facebook. I should pop up in a search for “Rebekah Teal”? I want to see that clip. Take special care!

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Farming In A Winter Wonderland

“I can never remember
whether it snowed for six days and six nights when I was twelve
or
whether it snowed for twelve days and twelve nights when I was six.”
Dylan Thomas

Blue running in the snow

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  1. Rene Foust says:

    Sounds just like heaven to me! I hope you get to experience a blizzard and I am sorry that your pipes froze. It has been really cold and snowy here in Maryland since before Christmas and I am just so happy that I have not had to fix any frozen pipes…it is a worry. So happy for you.

  2. Louise Hanson says:

    I can see a summer task coming on for you and hubby: wrapping well all pipes above ground and making sure all pipes below ground are deep enough. I’m sure you must know that if you have electricity to the barn, you can get a heater to put in the water trough to keep it from freezing. Just be sure to secure the cord so the ponies can’t chew it.

  3. Wendy Curling says:

    Oh my kindred spirit. We even wear the same boots. We had 10 inches of very uncharacteristic snow here in Virginia last night so we were up early checking on critters and breaking ice in water buckets. We are building a farm where once there was nothing so the task is daunting but I love it to my soul and strangely enough I enjoy it even more with snow on the ground! I always enjoy your posts and always start reading my Mary Jane magazine from back to front so I can read you first. (I’ve got an old truck project, too!)

  4. Diana Henretty says:

    Blizzards are wonderful, just be prepared, I’m learning that day by day in these Ozarks.
    I’ve learned to buy double all year long to stock up for these Ozark winters.
    Just got thru some below zero nights here, sometimes temps only in the teens in the day time, but my sewing machine buzzes along on my kitchen table while making
    baby size pillow cases for my newest grandsons.
    Now the forecast says a “huge winter storm with snow and ice” is headed our way next week…..YAY
    There’s nothing like a true blue winter, the cold snowy days, frosty mornings,
    and then the little corner of your heart where hope waits for spring!
    Happy Wishes, Diana, Noel, Mo

  5. Margo;) Jakoubek says:

    Yes it is romantic. Until the pipes freeze right? Save those stings of bailing twine to crochet into a lovely durable grocery bag, or a wonderful boot room rug! They are also treated with rodent repellent that does a wonderful job or repelling deer in your garden or from around your roses in the summer. IF. IF you can rescue enough from your children and ALL they manage to tie up with them. Including one another!
    Enjoy and Happy Blizzards!!!

  6. glenda woodward says:

    Thank you for sharing. Looks like you are doing pretty well for a newbie. Here is one thing I do with the twine. I braid my horses tail , bend it in half below the bone . Then lay a few long strands of twine in the loop and secure with vet wrap. Keeps a tail nice and clean for a while and the knots in the ends help with swating. I hope that makes sense . Keep up the good work ! Love your place. GW

  7. pat says:

    Well, here is an idea to use the twine….learn to crochet it or knit it and make sturdy shopping bags from it. It would be stiff to work with but they sure would last a long time! Macrame for hanging flower pots like they used to (back in the day). My grandpa (a REAL farmer) used to bundle his newspapers and tie them with twine. Just a couple of thoughts…

    BTW, if you do knit or crochet use really, really big hooks/needles. : )

  8. Rebekah, I just purchased a poultry water heater from Tractor Supply and it works great. WHen the temp was 6 outside, there wasn’t an ice crystal anywhere on their water. I saw they had heated buckets for horses as well. They range about $50. But so worth not having to haul water everyday. Also I live in NC and I just found this place called Shopnational.com they are based in Lexington NC and I saw they have cuddly duds. They always have specials, check them out. I am glad you are fitting right into your farm life. oh and we woke up this morning to frozen pipes. I must’ve accidentally turned the water off, we always leave it dripping? Hubby is out now thawing out. Be BLessed. Neta

  9. Nan Roberts says:

    Rebekah,
    Is the chicken house insulated? Come to think of it, the barn isn’t, is it. Seems like barns aren’t insulated. So what happens to the animals where it gets to way, way below zero? I live on the Central Oregon Coast, and grew up on the Northern California Coast in the redwoods, so though I have been in snowy weather, even below zero sometimes, a lot of this is foreign to me.

    I was told in December when we had a freeze to disconnect the hoses from the house. They are full of water and when that freezes, it can drive ice back into the faucet, doing bad things.

    Usually I just bring the hoses inside for the winter, because it usually rains all winter here. But this year is looking drought-like. I have to actually *water* the potted plants sometimes. In January! It’s unreal.

    THanks for the details and the pics and the updates. I have a heavy Carharrt work jacket. I love it. Not fashionable, but it’s Carharrt. And warm.

  10. Keenan says:

    You are so cool! I do not believe I’ve read through something like this before.
    So good to discover somebody with a few original thoughts on this subject.
    Seriously.. thank you for starting this up. This website
    is one thing that is needed on the internet, someone with a little originality!

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A Year at the Farm In Photos

2013 was my first calendar year living on a farm. Whew!

I ended the year feeling rather overwhelmed. Both my husband and I lost friends at the end of the year and it put us in a contemplative mood. (another way to say “in a funk”)

Man, we’ve got so far to go…

And then I started looking back at the photographs I took this past year.

And that made me realize that

Man, we’ve come so far…

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  1. Rebecca says:

    What a beautiful tribute to all the work you’ve done and the lessons you’ve learned. The pictures are wonderful and the final lesson says it all. I have to remind myself to do that each day…..just enjoy the day and the moment.

  2. Adrienne says:

    What an amazing year you’ve had and the photos are a visual scrapbook that will last forever. Thank you for sharing!

  3. Jan says:

    Before I forget to ask, do you make your own pizza crust? A recipe would be great, since you are the MASTER…
    A wonderful year for you, Rebekah! Your farm is beautiful….The best part is that you saved it and you are breathing new life into your treasure!
    I also cry often, and am happy to know that I am not alone. We are ‘deep feelers’…

  4. Love your journey. Love how you share it. Love you. Welcome back.

  5. Robin in New Jersey says:

    Beautiful, Beautiful! Your farm is shaping up just lovely! Thank you for sharing it with us.

    What kind of pizza dough do you use/make? That pizza looks amazing!

    We wish we could have chickens here. Maybe someday.

    Oh, and the black snake…I would have had a heart attack and died!

    Happy New Year!

  6. loreta says:

    Great blog I loves the picture journey.

  7. Bonnie ellis says:

    You have done remarkably well. You’re not a city girl any longer. Congratulations!
    ,
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  8. Marilyn Khadduri says:

    Dear Rebekah,

    Thanks so much for sharing all the lovely pictures of your progress; they are so
    beautiful! I know it has been a lot of hard work, but then I look at the pic of the
    farm in the different seasons, and all the beauty that season brings, and I am so
    happy for you! I, too, am looking for some piece of land that has a few hills, water,
    and good soil. Maybe this is the year I will find it. 🙂 For now, I will take your advice
    and enjoy my home at the present.
    Trusting that 2014 will be filled with much joy and progress for you and your family.

    Love,
    Marilyn

  9. JoEllen says:

    What a wonderful post to wake up to and enjoy with my morning coffee! Thank you for the beautiful pictures and the sharing of your life with us — you always leave me with thoughts to ponder and put into practice. I may not be where I would like to be at the moment, but I have no idea what lies ahead so like you said, I will seek out the joy each day and rejoice in those around me. Love your horses too — I feel that way about a new rescue dog that we recently got — he rescued me as much as I rescued her — my dear, funny Lucy. May 2014 bring you even more joy in unexpected ways!!!!

  10. louise marie says:

    Sounds like your dad is an intelligent man. You also. i love this post. i wanted it to go on and on. Thank you for sharing your first year on the farm with us. It was delightful. i can’t get over the barn. It went from drab and deteriorating to good on the eyes, functional, and full of spirit. My word for the year 2014 is enjoy!

  11. debbi skinner says:

    i enjoy your blog very much! thank you for your time!

  12. Linda says:

    I am so overwhelmed by your pictures. So much has happened in one year. We have 5.5 acres that we plan to move to in a couple of years. Each year we add a little more to what we did the last year. It is so much fund. We have had chickens on our little farm that we go to daily now for almost 3 years and love them. My husband and I are truly looking forward to getting to enjoy our little farm as your family does. The only thing in Savannah GA we do not have snow…. what a bummer.

  13. Daniele says:

    Your farm looks wonderful!
    I’m always happy to hear about the animals, the building remodeling and all the other interesting things that takes place each month. Keep up the great work because its looking pretty darn good from here. 👏👏👏👏

  14. RhondaLane says:

    That was BEAUTIFUL! Thank you, thank you!

  15. Stephanie Cook says:

    Rebekah, this is lovely. I copied Learn to In-Joy into my homemade book of favorite quotes where I will continue to be inspired by it.
    Love what your Dad says, too, and love Mary Jane for bringing all this to me.

  16. Dena Corry says:

    Stunning record of your year!!! So happy that your farmgirl dreams are coming true.

    Blessings to you and yours,

    Dena

  17. Dorothy says:

    A year can make so much difference in a life. Thanks for sharing your year and helping me look forward – not back.

  18. Kelly Ryan says:

    Thank-you for sharing your lovely pictures! I have really enjoyed seeing your dream come to life! Thank-you also for being so compassionate to animals and giving good lives to your dog, horses and chickens. Happy 2014 to your and your family!

  19. Rebekah, this is so inspiring and joyful. What an amazing thing you and your family have done. Your farm is beautiful, and it shines with love. Thank you for letting us follow along on your journey. I can’t wait to see what’s in store for this year!

  20. Joan says:

    Blessed with lots of hard work and imagination. Thanks for sharing. God Bless

  21. Connie says:

    What a Busy! wonderful year it was!!!

    Connie

  22. Pat says:

    I cannot imagine all the work that went into your lovely farm…but I can see you are happy, grateful, and loving every minute of it. What a dream come true for you and your family. I love it when other people can live their dreams!! And it must have been a real treat to do old fashioned caroling. It is so frowned on these days in neighborhoods. We used to go around to different houses and offer carols. Some people gave us hot chocolate and some gave us warm smiles but never were we asked not to… What a lovely life, a warm hearted you, a handsome cowboy husband, and a beautiful daughter! Amazing Grace indeed…

  23. colleen says:

    What a blessed year you have had and what a blessing it is to read about..Thank You!! Will be following you in 2014!

  24. Carol in NC says:

    What a difference a year makes! Your farm looks like a picture, so worth the hard work. I love what your dad said, which helps me to justify my endlessly long list of projects!

  25. Sharon says:

    Thank you for sharing Rebekah. You are truly an inspiration to me to keep dreaming.
    Your horses are beautiful!

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Oh Christmas Tree

Now that Thanksgiving has come and gone and we have all rested up from the big feasts

(Blue and Tom)

it’s time to think about Christmas! And Christmas Trees!

Oh, but just to update you, I’m eating a big ole turkey sandwich right now.

Yep, there was turkey on the Thanksgiving Day table. Hubs insisted.

And next thing you know, I’m serving myself a slice of white turkey breast and some home-made gravy.

And. It. Was.

GOOD.

Real good. So good that I’m having a sandwich of leftovers.

(note to self: never raise turkeys. never raise turkeys. never raise turkeys.)
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  1. Robin in New Jersey says:

    Ok, you have convinced me, only a real tree will do! We were thinking of getting a fake one this year. Not now!

    Love the pic of the sun above the tree!

  2. Nancy says:

    Agree. Support your tree farmers of America–for everything.

  3. Pat says:

    I love reading your blogs. And I like what you have to say about it isn’t where you live but how you live.

    I AM a country girl at the very core….but I married a total city boy and we live in the heart of a neighborhood. I counted once and SIX houses look into our back yard. : ( Not MY idea of country living… But….my backyard is and has been totally organic for the last 20 years!! YEA. And Oh, do I have the earth worms. They snuggle right down into this clean soil and make all their little tunnels and leave good earth food behind. : ) So, there is a little piece of country here. He’s not one for my backyard gardening (bye by tomatoes that taste like tomatoes!) but he doesn’t mind flowers. So, the bees like my backyard and an occasional butterfly flits in to say hello. I dug a very small pond that has a waterfall and a bird or two comes for a drink and sometimes raccoons. They don’t fish there, though, because it is deep enough the fish can dive, dive, dive. There are lots of trees around us and do we have many birds (who knew the Robins has such a beautiful song?) and the Cardinals with their lovely lilting songs. But I do miss my grand parents farm especially at hay mowing time….sigh.

    For now anyway I’ll be contented to "farm" my little slip of earth, watch the fish swim, and listen to the birds sweet music.

    Please!!! keep up your blog because it connects me back to my roots….makes me laugh (don’t raise turkeys!)…and stirs my senses into tranquility.

  4. Rebecca says:

    Real. It’s gotta be real. I’ve had a couple years of artifical trees in my life (out of necessity) but real is so much better. When I was a little, my dad made a big deal out of finding the perfect tree on our farm. Later I realized that he had already picked it out, but he wanted to prolong the fun. I love the pictures of your family and your trees. And I especially like the one of the tree with the sun as the topper. Beautiful.

  5. Becky says:

    A few yrs.back my sons worked on a Christmas tree farm which meant we did too. It is a lot of hard work and all thru the yr. four weeks selling the harvest is the fun part and I was asked to make wreaths from the cuttings! Wow they smelled good! Love your blog and your house! Merry Christmas and blessings.

  6. Sharon says:

    Small house + heating with wood = dead trees. We have tried live in pots, cut, super-fresh cut by us, and not one survived. One year the tree became such a fire hazard that we had to get a second one before Christmas! That said, we have our little 4 1/2 ft artificial tree. Same one for about 17 years. As much as we would love a real tree, it isn’t in the cards for us. Who knows though, maybe someday I’ll end up with one of your trees!

  7. Kim says:

    We have a REAL artificial tree. 🙂 It’s been in our family for well over 10 years with no plans to replace it any time soon. My mother-in-law has had hers for as long as I’ve known my husband, so 32 years. Both are still as beautiful as ever.

    I am very, very afraid of fires and feel much more comfortable with an artificial versus real tree inside the house ever since we had children.

  8. Sandy says:

    The first year we were married we bought a tree at a lot. No needles left by Christmas! That was the last lot tree we ever had. Ever since we have cut trees at tree farms, that is 42 years. Our daughters are 34 now and we all still go together to cut our trees, plus now a 7 year old, a 5 year old, and this year a five month old! We are doing it on Saturday!

  9. Jaimey says:

    I love your blog posts! They are so fun to read. The photo of the Christmas tree with the sun is amazing.

  10. Joan says:

    Sadly I say we use artificial because of the many allergies in the family – but there is a REAL one right out my back window – what a beauty. Love the pictures of your home and surrounding area – FARM that is what it is for sure. Merry Christmas – Christmas tree farm.

  11. Lisa says:

    It’s always been a fresh Christmas tree for me. You’ll laugh to hear that I purchased mine this year from the grocery store. I love your blog and always come here when I need a smile!

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